Last Wednesday, I was busy….with the children – finishing a little school work-vacuuming (because with a dog shedding non-stop)…I do that quite often right now…and baking cookies.
It was a ‘normal’ Wednesday around here, hustling, bustling,reading and laughing…along with well, preparing for my Wednesday Tea with another homeschool Mom and her children. ( I so look forward to those afternoons with her)!
It was ‘normal’ until my husband sent me an email: ”Your Daddy is trying to call you…..”
Now, I have to back up and give you a little history. For 2 months, my Dad would call my husband and ask where I was…..he would call me and ask why I was not answering my Dad’s calls. My answer: If he would call my phone, I would answer….so, I would then, dial my Dad and we would chat. Now, my Dad never really said anything…but I could tell he was getting a bit chapped over the whole ‘me not answering my phone’….but, truly, I was not receiving his calls and I knew if I tried explaining that…the conversation would really not go anywhere….so, I bit my tongue and prayed (1217 – blessing of prayer to the Father.)
When I called my Dad….I discovered….he was driving into my neighborhood…that he had been trying to call me all day to let me know he was coming for a visit. (1218 – Knowing that my Dad feels comfortable in our home)
(Yes, he likes to surprise me. No…I don’t mind…but, I’ll get into that in a minute).
So, I quickly put the vacuum away (I was finished anyway) and I put another batch of cookies in the oven and told the children their Grandpa was pulling in the driveway and they were finished with school. (1219 – the freedom and flexibility homeschool has brought into our home)
The noise and excitement that followed could have been heard for miles. (there’s nothing like a visit from Grandpa)….
And he arrived. (1220 – safe travels)
As he walked in…I could tell he was a little upset. I very calmly said “Dad, I know you have been mad at me for two months. I know you think I’m ignoring your calls. Dad, I’m not. Will you please look at my phone…it will show you all of the calls I have received…..and your number is not there…” And…he did.
“Dad, may I please see your phone…so I can see the number you have been dialing.”….he handed me his phone and the number he had been dialing was not mine. (1221 – the Holy spirit working on this sinful heart)
I smiled at him…and said….”I did not want to dishonor you by arguing with you on the phone. I love having you here and I am sorry that we could not have ‘fixed’ this before now. But, will you please forgive me? I would have answered your calls.”….and I fixed the number. (1222 – the genuine love that comes from a child to a parent)
So, my Dad was no longer angry…and my friend and her children showed up. She was as surprised as I was to see my Dad and she quickly checked on me…and asked if I was ok with him just showing up. I said “YES, it no longer matters if my house is spotless, laundry is finished, food is prepared…what matters most is that our home is open and anyone can drop in any time.”
That was NOT me…just a few years ago. I would have argued ‘until I was blue in the face’ with my Dad about the number he was calling. I would have been more concerned with being ‘right’ than honoring him…..and I never wanted anyone to show up unless my house was perfect. Because after all…that is what we are here to achieve, right? A life that is perfect or appears perfect to others. (1223 – striving to be like Christ – knowing I can not be perfect…has given me freedom to love more)
I don’t try to keep up that appearance any longer. I want to have a warm, loving and cheerful home. One that is a haven from the rush of the world.
This week, I have been studying with Hello Mornings – Focused 15 and Good Morning Girls – Proverbs 31. I love the way both have shown me how to focus on love and consider the hearts of others more….while gently giving me a voice to ‘speak up and judge fairly‘ – (Prov 31:9)
What are you studying? How do you handle justice, while honoring/loving others?