For the first three years of homeschooling I made it a point to set aside 15 minutes for each child every day. Those fifteen minutes were used to talk, play a game – something that had nothing to do with learning a subject, teaching, etc.
Those fifteen minutes had everything to do with growing my relationship with each of my children. Individually.
They were an opportunity to love on, grow and disciple (sshhhhh…don’t tell them that) them.
Last year was our fourth year of homeschooling. And I’m ashamed to admit that I did not do that last year. I had a busy schedule and I was overwhelmed with my husband’s late hours. Instead of sitting back and taking things off of my plate, I piled more on thinking I was helping.
Looking back, I realize letting go of those 15 minutes every day was probably one of the worst mistakes (ok – there are quite a few) I have made as a Mom.
I realized this a few weeks ago when I had plans to have a day to just write. My husband had a full day off and was going to take all of our children on a day out and give me a day ‘off’ to write and relax. However, our daughter was not really happy with that. She wanted a day with Mommy. While part of me wanted to make her go, a bigger part realized we needed a day – a girl’s day and I needed to make some major adjustments.
So, Dad and the boys left for a boy’s day. My daughter and I spent the day together. We drove down and saw some friends at an expo. It was fun walking around, not working and just exploring as a Mom again. It was also fun to just be able to talk with friends (as a friend) and watch my daughter light up when some of her very best friends surprised her by showing up.
It was great seeing the Rondina’s from Shatter Point Entertainment. My boys (and my daughter) love their add-ons for legos and their movies. You should have seen my little guy light up with excitement when he saw the set his sister picked out for him. Here is a picture (the tenth I took) trying to get his silly toothless grin to not look like he was in pain! He is so silly.
After a few hours, we left and went to lunch. I took my daughter out to real restaurant. We enjoyed some pasta and a HUGE piece of chocolate cake. We witnessed girlfriends out celebrating a lunch and just enjoyed some good girl time together.
The day wasn’t quite over though. She needed some new clothes and I knew it was time to make some girly purchases. Oh, sweet Mama my heart wasn’t quite ready for that. It was a special purchase and a special day.
It was great having time to just focus on her and what she needs as a girl.
It was also a day to remind me to put those 15 minutes per child back on my schedule. The time with my children is passing by so quickly. I don’t want to miss a moment.
I pray – you don’t miss them either.
Take time – put it on your schedule.
Have a tea party, play basketball, run in the leaves, paint, color, play a board game, lay in the grass, roll down a hill, climb a tree (or watch while they climb), go for a bike ride, read together, sew, crochet, play baseball, toss a ball, jump over trees , run through the woods, blow bubbles, have a staring contest, sing some songs, tell knock knock jokes, share stories about your childhood, dream about the future, find animals in the clouds
just be in the moment with that one child building memories that will last a lifetime and prove to be a foundation that can not be shaken.
Your moments with your children are so precious Mama – How are you spending them?Sharing with Raising Arrows , What’s Working Wednesday and Wisdom Wednesday